I figured it was only fair to counter last night’s post with guys’ version.  Oh gosh, I hope I can wrap everything up into “one thing”.  My guy friends can tell you that when I get asked (or when I just volunteer) my opinion about what I think guys should be doing—I have a hard time getting off my soapbox. 

I saw a Facebook post once that said, “Every morning I get up with the preconceived notion that all guys are jerks then wait for someone to prove me wrong.  That hasn’t happened yet.”  While I don’t necessarily believe that all guys are jerks, I do think most girls are walking around believing that.  I know we shouldn’t group you all together, but I think it’s so easy to do that because the jerks are out-shining the few good guys that are still out there. 

I wish that the guys that are aiming to be sold out for Jesus would step up and show us that they’re out there.  Where are the guys that will assume the responsibility of leading and initiating in their relationships, even just friendships, with girls?  Where are the guys that will be the spiritual leader?  Where are the ones that will do the little things in their relationships with women that communicate they care, respect, and desire to protect?  This doesn’t have to be hard.  You just have to simply be a gentleman to the women in your life; show them that their status as a woman is a righteous one.  Just remember that you’re not doing these things to impress or win a woman’s heart.  You’re supposed to do these things for God’s glory.  You’re to do them to serve a sister in Christ and honor her as a woman.  It’s good practice for your future wife!

Now I know that girls don’t make that easy on you.  Some are so caught up in stepping up for you that they don’t really give you a chance.  Others just need you to stop being nice to them unless you plan to propose.  Both give the rest of us a bad reputation.  I know—most girls can be crazy and don’t make it easy on you at all.  Do me a favor and don’t group us all together!  Strive to seek out the girls that are genuinely striving to be Godly.  (I could expand on that, and will, just not right now.)    

Instead, I’ll sum in up in an Elisabeth Elliot quote, “The world cries for men who are strong—strong in conviction, strong to lead, to stand, to suffer.  I pray that you will be that kind of man—glad that God made you a man, glad to shoulder the burden of manliness in a time when to do so will often bring contempt.”